Before we moved, our little girl Lilah, was having some intensifying sleep problems. She had been sleeping through the night from about 6 months through about 15 months, but after a series of winter colds and flus, started relying on us to soothe her back to sleep. It didn't help that we were offering bottles of milk.
As the move approached, and things in our old palce were definitely more topsy turvy, the problems got a little worse (more than one wake-up was not uncommon), but we didn't want to do anything drastic just before the move, since the move was going to change everything anyway.
Well, Lilah had been here about a week, and though the move itself was tough on Both the kids' sleep schedules (and Ann's), but everything was starting to settle back down. Half the time she woke up, she could cry herself back down, and really nasty screaming incidents were decresing rapidly.
Until last Tuesday. One of those nasty screaming incidents--the ones where she wakes up just completely disconsolate--was going on, and suddenly, the monitor seemed to be losing strength. Her screaming seemed to be getting softer, and then, it wass much much louder. As if it were coming toward us.
Yup. Lilah had learned to hop out of her crib.
Since then, every time she woke up, she leapt out of her crib and charged out of her room. There were some attempts to do the silent return to sleep thing, but neither Ann nor I was prepared to put the child back in her crib shreiking over 100 times in one night--which is what various sleep books had suggested we might need to do.
So over the past nine nights, Ann and I have been taking turns soothing her back to sleep, which initially consisted of holding her and listening to music, and then putting her in her crib when she fell asleep. But she was now growing gradually getting so over tired, that her sleep was getting lighter, and half the time we'd lay her down, she'd wake up, wail, and pop out of the crib after us.
The problem was escalating, not diminsihing. Some nights it would taker 2+ hours to get her sound enough asleep to put her back down, and by early this week, she was waking up at 4 am and not going back to sleep. Monday, she skipped her nap entirely.
Last night, we put her to bed at 7:30. She slept in her crib until midnight, at which point she woke up. I was on duty, so I soothed her back to sleep for about an hour, when I was able to put her back down. mind you she was asleep for most of that hour, but not deeply so. I was decidedly not asleep.
She woke up at two, and wouldn't let me put her down again. I (like Ann the night before) ended up sleeeping with her on the floor next to her crib. It was that bad.
We have been at various times completely hopeless. Lilah is practically gray from overtired, and it is a testament to her winning personality that she isn't the crankiest child alive. even after a longish nap this afternoon, she looked as if she has just risen from the dead and was going to eat our souls (which were pretty used up as it was).
But alas, today, our new crib tent arrived. We ordered it last week, and it was supposed to arrive Wednesday morning, but instead it came this afternoon.
I did a dance. three or four actually.
When Lilah woke up from her nap, her brother and I greeted her, and we all played in her room while I installed the crib tent (and a new monitor system).
The plan: zip her in and let her cry herself down. This method has not worked in the oast but we have caved too quickly for fear that she would wake Collin, who sleeps like a champ. But hings have been so bad, that she's waking him up anyway, and this seems the only remedy.
We expected to go in and soothe verbally only after 5 minuites, then 10 minutes, 15, 20 30, and that the increasing intervals would give her space to fginally fall asleep, but we expected to have to wait for the 30 minute gap to hear silence. But after 30 minutes total at bedtime, she fell asleep. on her own. with no one buyt her in the room
I did another dance.
Tonight may be a bit of a long night, but neither of us can expect to have to sleep on the floor next to the crib of an otherwise perfectly healthy child who refuses to sleep in that crib.
Three nights of gradual weaning from the verbal soothing will lead to no visits until morning by Sunday night, at which point much of this should be resolved.
And then, I will do another dance. and then sleep the sleep of the dead.